Six questions to know if you’ve made the right decision? So let’s say you’ve decided to change your roles at work or want to leave your profession, move houses, or start or end a relationship. And then you start thinking, what if you’ve made the right decision?
And then your mind is on overdrive thinking about everything wrong with the decision that you’ve just made. How do you know if you’ve made the right decision?
In this article, I’m going to share with you six questions to ask yourself every time. When you’re faced with uncertainty about that important decision.
Whatever the decision is to you. They’ll help you to cut through that mind cluster to determine. Whether you’ve made the right choice or to guide you to get clarity around what the right path is.
You want to think of these questions as a six-stage filter. That you can pass your decisions through the filter. To gain clarity on whether, if you’ve made the right decision?
Now, what tends to happen when you’re faced with making important decisions is that your brain can get into a pattern of overanalysis.
And since your brain is also designed to overanalyze from harm, it starts to alert you about all of the possible things that could go wrong. All of the overanalysis Your brain, if left unchecked, has a natural tendency
You dwell on the risks and the threats. It’s designed to magnify. What do you focus on? Almost like, that weird thing that happens. When you’re fixated on a new style of clothing or a new car model, and then you start to notice it everywhere.
So what happens is when you start to focus on all the things that could go wrong. You prime your radar to notice things. That confirms these beliefs, that things will go wrong.
And so these confirmations can end up. Convincing you to note that leap to make the move. To not make the change, because of the possibility that it might not work.
But here’s the reality: you’re never going to have a guaranteed outcome. You’ll never know for sure if you’ll reach success by taking one direction or another. Especially if you look for them.
So sometimes what-is out making a decision that’s not 100% right. Because you can’t know. Sometimes it’s about being satisfied with 70% and not holding yourself to an impossibly high standard.
What I recommend to the professionals we work with. When they’re deciding whether or not to make a decision. Whether or not to pursue a particular path. Is to ask themselves these six questions.
These questions, which I’m about to share with you. Become that filter that you use to pass all of your decisions. And your big choices help you gain clarity. Whether your decision is right for you or not. So first up, the first question is.
Will this path help me to grow?
You always want to be making decisions and following paths that help. you grow as an individual. This may mean through challenges, through tests, through obstacles.
It might be a challenge to be pushed outside. Your comfort zone and take more of a risk. But you know that in doing. So, even if you don’t get the exact intended outcome of success.
That you’re looking for, you will be challenged as an individual. Which will force you to grow and strengthen your character.
So this is the very first question that you need to ask yourself. Will I challenge myself and accept that leadership position? Will I be able to gain experience in that new industry? Will this help me grow? Next up, the second question you need to ask yourself is this.
What is my decision based on ego?
Are you doing it because you’re chasing a title? A position or status or something else that makes you feel good? Because it makes you realize how exceptional others are?
Does it make you feel important, significant, and validated? Here’s the thing. We know from research that chasing titles and status won’t make you happy.
And it’s a red flag that could indicate that. You’re trying to get some sense of fulfilment from something. That won’t bring it in the long run.
In this where we think that external things will bring us happiness. But when we achieve it. We eventually just bounce back. How we felt before. There’s no real lasting change to our happiness.
The other red flag here is approval. Are you deciding to do or not do something just because. It’s what others think you should or shouldn’t do?
We all have a natural deep-seated emotional need for approval and validation. And it can be one of the most powerful motivators for behaviour. This approval brings a huge amount of psychological safety and inner peace.
But it’s not the right reason to be basing decisions. You need to be invested in it for the right reasons. Because they want me to not qualify. And the third question you want to ask yourself is,
Does my decision excite me?
Does this thing I’m deciding to do, this new job, settle in a new country, a new profession, does it excite me?
Even if you’re a little anxious about what could be and the uncertainty. There has to be some spark. Something deeply exciting about, whatever it is you’re doing.
This is how you know that it’s aligned with what you want deep down. Now, there are also two other considerations that you want to keep in mind. The fourth question which you ask yourself is.
Does my decision intentionally hurt anyone or not?
It is very difficult for us to make any decision. Which does not hurt anyone. For example, I have two children, one is 4 years old and the second is 10 years old.
Many times they quarrel about the same thing. Especially my younger son, who always insists on the stuff of my elder child.
And we have to satisfy his insistence. Because he is small and less intelligent. Due to this, my elder son gets angry. So we have to do counselling. And give him the excuse. That you are older and more intelligent than him.
Something similar is the case with our whole life. As a boss when you take any decision for office. It is certain that some employees of the office. Dislike your decision.
So when you make a decision. You first think about the impact of the decision on others. If it is 70 or 80% perfect for others. And 80% of people have no issue. Then your decision will be perfect.
Like sometimes when the stuff is very essential for my elder son. Without a doubt, I give that stuff to my elder som.
If it does, you can minimize the hurt, this will be personal to each individual. So you need to figure it out. What is right for you and what’s right for the people around you.
Do I have the resources to make it happen?
This one is probably more specific to people looking to, for example, start their own business.
Let’s say you have a full-time job, a mortgage and a car loan. But your passion is to run a business. So you might quit your full-time job. But then you have no savings to live off or use as capital.
And you’re probably being a little bit negligent if you do that because you won’t be able to pay your bills next week.
Planning is important, and if now isn’t the right time, then that’s okay. At least you have the intention. You just need a little wisdom and foresight.
What did we get in the end?
The last but the most important question is why we give marks to any decision. According to their outcome. Because it is the measurement of any decision. If it is good, we give it a full mark, and if it is bad, we give it zero.
But life is like a puzzle. In life, we rarely get the chance to give our decision 100 into 100 or 100 into 0. Because nothing is perfect in this world, every decision has some loopholes. And if we get 0, then we are dead.
Because every decision we make gives us something. Which we apply to our next decision. If our decision is wrong, we avoid it in our further decision. And if our decision is right, we try to take more chances on it.
So a quick recap of the six filter questions to ask yourself. Which helps you to know, if you’ve made the right decision or not? Will this path help me to grow? if yes, Then is my decision based on ego, title or status?
if no, ask, does it excite me? if yes, Ask, does my decision intensely hurt anyone? if not, Ask, what resources do I have enough to make the decision? if yes, What did we get in the end?
If you get to this question and you say, yes, it excites me, then you have to follow your gut instinct. Now, things may go wrong, but you have to be okay with that.
The best part about 99.9% of life decisions are that they are reversible, excluding having children or skydiving without a parachute. So think wisely about those. But with everything else, while it may take time, it can be reversed.
You can come back from a decision that doesn’t go to plan, but you will know that in taking that path, something new. You expanded your mindset, you challenged yourself and tried differently.
And in the last, if you find less Mark in the question. What did you get in the end? Boldly say to yourself, yes I made the wrong decision. But it excites me, it does not hurt anyone.
I could not better manipulate my resources, but it does not halt my growth. Because it gives me new experiences, which I never know until I made this decision.
And you will always take that growth with you. So they hope you found this useful and that you can apply the six questions to filter the next big decision.
Whether it’s related to your career or even just a major, or life decision that you’re needing to make. Of course, it’s not going to apply to 100% of your decisions, but the principle to just help guide you whenever you decide on life.
Best of luck.